19 Lessons From This Year

The season of long days and a preference for relaxing in the sun, a time to kick back a bit and enjoy the fruit of our labour done in the cold and rainy off-season. It’s time to both enjoy and double down. 

What are things that I’ve learned this year so far? 

1. No one understands your vision. Be very cautious who you share an idea with, you should ultimately let the world decide if it stinks or not. (if it does, keep going)

2. Pay attention to your dreams. Your brain is incredibly efficient and wastes 0 energy. Your intuition senses everything around you and what is to come. It sends you information when your prefrontal cortex steps back. 

3. Show up every day. 

4. Jesus fuck I keep having to come back to this one myself but Instagram is an absolute waste. Delete that shit unless you are using it for a specific reason. 

5. Create without limitations and then come back and revise/edit/cut. If you want to make art, you must express the shit thoughts first in order to reach your golden nugget. Flow doesn’t happen instantaneously, you must push for it. 

6. Dress for the life that you desire. If you want to be driving an Italian Riva boat, ripping through Lake Como with your sweet lover on a hot summer day, then wear the white linen pants, gulf-blue terry cloth T, watch, and Persol sunglasses. See what happens. 

7. Throw out your desk and replace it with a table. The more shit you accumulate the more chaotic your life is. A desk has drawers for junk, a table does not.

8. Buy original art and intentionally decorate your home. 

9. Stop blaming the other gender for all the problems in the dating world. Expect that finding the person you hope to grow old with is a challenge for a good reason. 

10. Trust your gut on shitty people. If something feels off, step away. 

11. Anger must be expressed, and the difference in healthy vs unhealthy expression is the outlet you choose. (Hint, unleashing anger onto the ears of those close to you is not it.)

12. Invite humor into everything. If you are by default the most uptight in life, you need humor the most. 

13. There’s an end to your healing and it comes at the exact moment that you stop taking action on thoughts that don’t serve you.

    1.  Breathwork, yelling, journaling, upside-down-yoni-dancing, it’s all meant to help you become objective to see this simple truth. Adopting the identity of “I’m healing” beyond a few weeks is usually someone who excuses destructive behaviour and who lives with a victim mentality. Don’t do that. 

14. Move quietly, deliver loudly.

15. Do toe-curls daily. Trust me.

16. Talk to old people at the park. 

17. Forgive

18. If someone in your life comes to you with a problem, respond to them with questions, not answers.

19. If you are deciding between two options, never take the path that has an ending you are familiar with. 

Time to get bronze and salty from the ocean and the sun Don’s and Donnette’s

No new content this week, so here is an absolute banger of a tune that always gets me going. It’s superb for going on a run or on a long drive, windows down, moving towards and adventure.

Top pic is from the Turkish Riviera- where I currently am. Holy shit folks, this place is a hidden gem. Cheap, sunny, clear waters, and no french people! Alhamdulillah